In this clip, Diane Musho Hamilton Sensei gives us a down-to-earth view of relationship. She says that as far as relationships go, we need to make peace with the fact that sometimes our relationships hurt: whether we are single, divorced, married, or dating, none of these options will ultimately be as we would like them to be all of the time, and perhaps not even most of the time. That's why she says, when it comes to relationships, "pick your poison." Whatever form of relationship you have, there is some pain, some poison that accompanies intimacy and communion. Her advice on how to deal with it? "Learn to love in spite of the pain." Listen in to this grounded, realistic view of love and relationships.